If its bothering you, tell them anyway,
If you love him, tell him anyway,
If she does not respond to your texts, text her anyway,
If you wait for him and he does not show up, wait for him anyway,
If you call her, pour your heart to her and she does not respond, its alright, talk to her anyways.
Because speak your heart and if they do not understand, the message was never meant for them anyway. (Yasmin Mogahed)
We’ve all been there.
Spending countless nights thinking of reasons,
Why did we go our separate ways?
Where was the love we once had?
What about you understanding my point of view?
Why? Why?
Closure, I feel is a very very important factor towards the process of healing. But not everybody is lucky enough to sit down with their exes, in a park, with the wind blowing, basically a surreal setting that we see in movies. Life doesn’t work that way.
Most of the time, we do not have a chance to say our final goodbyes. We do not speak our opinions, we bury the voice, the one demanding for questions to be answered. Instead we do not ask why, we leave and then two years later realize we need answers.
So here are some things I learnt from closure.
(1) It doesn’t help.
(2) It doesn’t help because you will not hear the answers you are looking for.
(3) The answer being, you want to hear your ex say ‘It’s okay, I’m still as crazy as ever in love with you and we will work this out and be happy together all over again.’
(4) Back to no 2. You’ll never hear that again.
(5) It does help you in a way that you’ll be able to see that the person who you once love and still love has moved on from you.
(6) And you’ll feel sorry for yourself.
(7) And pity yourself, you’ll feel pathetic and wonder why in the first place you needed an answer.
(8) Because the answer has slapped you in the face.
(9) Things have changed, he/she has moved on without you and you should too.
(10) You’ll pick yourself up once again and never look back.
And when you do, you realize you never needed that closure. That you are fine the way you are.
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